How to get your ex lover back?

me and my ex girlfriend were together for 7 and a half years with all of the ups and down but we were still in love with one another before and somewhat after three children. we both wanted to get married and i wonder if we waited too long we only got as far as getting the marriage license and then everything went all bad and now she is in a relationship with a friend that she would date when ever we were having problems but over the course of our relationship this friend has been in jail for five or six years now and they have been communicating wit each other through mail and visits every since. I even had to deal with finding all of the letters that this man was sending to my house only to never being able to stop it but also moving out and being away from my kids behind all of this. The new guy gets outta jail in august and from what i hear they plan to be together. Maybe i should just leave it alone. Im kinda worried but not really, i just know that we should be together and that she is about to make a mistake thinking she wants to be with a younger man who is eager to get out and catch back up with the fun instead of being how and where she know she belongs. im confused.How to get your ex lover back?
I would just like to summarize your situation...





1. You would like to get your girlfriend, of 7yrs and 3 kids, back.


2. At one point you 2 were going to get married.


3. Your Ex is now in a relationship with a convict who pays her a lot of attention, from behind bars.


4. You have 4 months (August) to get your Ex back. This is very promising. because you'll have plenty of time to work some magic.





You have to seriously ask yourself ';Do I want my Ex back?'; If the answer is an undeniable ';Yes';... then I believe you should pursue your Ex, and try and rekindle your relationship with her. You'd certainly be a better fit than an convict - especially for your 3 children.





Now to answer your question - ';How to get an Ex Lover back?';





This question can't be answered in a sentence or 2, it's really important to have a well structured plan for getting your love back.





But here's the gist, a basic outline:


1. Agree with the break up.


2. Limit your contact with her. Use this time to gain some perspective.


3. Stay busy and re-evaluate your goals and ambitions. Go out on a date with someone else - don't place the fate of your happiness in an others hands.


4. Wait a month before contact. NOW we slowly re-establish a connection with the Ex.





I highly recommend you check out my website dedicated to helping people rekindle relationships with their Ex's. I just created the site a few days ago and will be adding ';how to'; advice on a regular basis, but right now it's still bare.How to get your ex lover back?
Marry a hooker and then get an std......
Tsk tsk, what a situation. You have my sympathy. If this woman is dating another man to fill the empty spaces between you that's a sign it's not working at all. Tell her to come back to you and let her know where you think she belongs. Tell her how miserable life will bewith this guy. If he's in jail that means he's been up to all sorts of bad things. He could become abusive. Tell her just how bad he is. Dude! You have till August! Take her out somewhere tell her you don't wanna fight, you just want her to hear you out. Make them change their plans. Use the children for an edge. Ask her flat out. Is this what you want our kids to be around? Lure her with stability.