How do you know if you should get back together with your ex husband?

My ex and I were married for 5 years (together 7) we had a daughter (now 2) and when she was 8 months old he left me. We were having problems financially as well as relationship problems in general (which everyone does!). He immediately started dating someone else and i filed for divorce. Now our divorce is almost final and we have both dated other people. We both still love each other and we have been ';dating'; for the past month. I want my family back together very badly- but I don't want to make the same mistakes. I can see that he hasn't really changed- I don't know if I believe people do change. I am just confused whether or not I should just accept him for who he is- flaws and all- and make it work. He was never abusive, he did not cheat on me, but he can be arrogant, selfish and has some narcissitic qualities. I am far from perfect too; however, I am eduated, have a good career and do not rely on him for my or my daughter's well-being. I know the grass isn't always greener on the other side- but I don't know if I'm truly 100% happy with him. But I don't know if there is such a thing as being 100% happy all of the time. I am confused because I do love him, and I did marry him and had intended to spend the rest of my life with him- through better or worse. Has anyone been through a similar situation? I just want someone else's perspective. Thanks!How do you know if you should get back together with your ex husband?
I think you guys still have a chance, but you need to be quick. It sounds like you guys have a real connection. It does look like you're doing the right thing by taking it slow and dating again. Don't give up.





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Good luck and don't let him go :)How do you know if you should get back together with your ex husband?
Been there, done that. Advice, they were an Ex for a reason, just getting back together prolongs the next divorce. Move on with you life, you will be a better person for not wasting your time and energy again on this guy.
if you've been separated all that time of course he cheated, regardless of your job he should support his child. nobody is happy all the time,


you both need to talk to a pastor.
He hasn't changed (your words not mine) and you sound desperate. Sounds like the worst possible combination to me. Dump him and move on, he hasn't changed!
continue dating and don't rush into anything.
It depends if he his willing to commit to you. Did he file on you for divorce? Or was it a joint filing? His personality will not change greatly. He might seem better at times, or might seem a bit worse. Since you have to be in each others lives for you child's sake you could try a reconciliation. My ex BF moved on and married someone else, their marriage is really bad right now, I know he can be difficult but she's shutting down on him. So now we are getting along better and have a 8 year old son together, that was almost 2 when he left us. He is arrogant and a narcissist, but I guess you could also say he's confident of himself, which I never was, perhaps I was attracted to him for that. I'm wondering if his marriage fails, will we just pick up where we left off? I guess we both have to think if we want to stay with him past the time the children leave the nest too.
';but I don't want to make the same mistakes. I can see that he hasn't really changed- I';





You get back together with him, you will be making the same mistake. Just end it and move on.