What to do if your ex wants to get back together with you?

My ex broke up with me almost a year ago and she broke my heart. After that I felt so low. After a while, sadness turned more into anger. There was a point when I wanted to inflict the same pain on her that she had done on me. Now I that I have more perspective, I realise that is the last thing I want to do. She wants to get back together with me, but I don't feel the same way about her. I feel like I don't know what I ever saw in her. But I do really care about her and I don't want to hurt her. I also think I might have given her mixed messages last time I saw her, which I feel really bad for. I feel very confused, as if I don't know how to feel or act around her... Any comments would be appreciated.What to do if your ex wants to get back together with you?
Follow you heart on this one. From what I read... it sounds like you KNOW you don't want her back because you no longer have a trusting bond with her. I am glad you no longer want to inflint the same pain on her as you felt... that shows you are maturing well and are making clear decisions regarding her.





Be a friend to her if you still CARE for her in that sense... but don't waste your time trying to be a boyfriend to her anymore... she wasn't serious about you the first time around and therefore would most likely hurt you again knowing she could always FALL BACK on you when a relapse came her way.





Same thing happened to my son. He dated a girl for like 5 years, she broke up with him for a little over a year and dated other people. He refused to date anyone during their breakup. Ended up getting back with her for a year then married her right after graduating Marine bootcamp... was married to her for a little over a year before she screwed his neighbor. They are now in the process of getting a divorce. He loved her and trusted her with everything in him... only to end up devastated in the end.





Don't take her back. :(What to do if your ex wants to get back together with you?
The first thing that you have to realize is that people basically do not change and that you likely to go through the same thing again with her. Next if you are already saying that you don't really love her any more then why are you even considering letting her back into your life? Just tell her that she had her chance and blew it and that now you have no further interest in her. Find someone who you LOVE to be with
yea bud girls like that...dont get back together with them


there just gonna do the samme thing ovvvver and ovvver ( 2 v's not w btw)


anyway yea man just try and find a girl that wont hurt you like she did and dont go back to her or itll just hurt more


-wes
Well for me no - i could never get back with an ex even if I loved them! If she has hurt you like this once she can do it again, all the same problems will still be there! You need to be honest with yourself and with her!
date someone better and ignore ur ex. then tell her one day u dating someone and u love heer alot and u cherish the times u once went out with her and u learnt a lot from her. but at the moment u can only be friends with her and.


dont be rude
2 questions are do you love her? And has too much damage been done?
I had an ex boyfriend, and he broke up with me and really hurt me too. Because he ignored me out of the blue; without stating the reason why. I still don't know what is the reason until today and it has been about 4 years now. I was the same, my sadness turned into anger, and I wanted to revenge. But you know what, I am glad I didn't. And no matter what, I would never get back with him, because I don't trust him anymore or what he might do to me. Who knows that he wouldn't ignore me again for no reason. It was so coward of him to never face me.





However, I got a better boyfriend now, and it's all good, and I do not regret it at all.


So my advice to you is: ignore her, find a better girl. I know people sometimes just want to get back with their ex's, but I see no reason to because you break up with them for a reason or they break up with you for a reason despite if they tell you what it is or not. Sometimes the reason is because of them, and not you. I always doubted myself if there is something wrong with me, but it's not me, it was him.





Find a better girl who will appreciate you for who you are -- who wants you for her and forever. Good luck with that.





It's your choice eventually, I just told you my story and advice.
the answer is a capital N O O O


do not go out with her anymore. Dump her like she dumped you. say an outright NO, tell her you have met someone else. Why is it so hard for people to see that others may be using them??


I understand you could still have feelings for her, but don't even go there at all...she will do it again


People hardly ever change their attitude. She must have been dumped by someone else, now she wants to use you again to regain her self-esteem.


Its up to you to decide, but I wouldn't get back together with her


GOODLUCK!