Whats the best way to let a girl your in love let them know that your leaving them.?

some people know me as matthew and some are linked to me on this site. so you know about all my desperate attempts to get this girl to like me back. but i am done i don't want her anymore. and i don't want to hurt her anymore than necessary. but i just don't want to hang out with her anymore. and i know that she will give the guilt trip and start to get angry and probably cry but i just don't care anymore and i want her to know that. I am sending this email to her and i want to run it by you first kay??? here it is











ok chelbee i am not trying to get you angry or anything but i am sick and tired of being the ex boyfriend who you don't seem to care about. all day at lunch and during breakfast i have to always hear about what a great time you are having with Ian. and then you always used to let Will touch you in places that i can only imagin. but whenever i am around or talk to you its always so diffrent than it was before we started going out. its always diffrent and i know that its always my fault. but when i sent you that email asking you out you treated it like it was a joke. you wanted me back and away from her and you got that now its like you are intentially trying to hurt me and i just don't want that. you know how i feel about you and you still trying to hurt me and i am sick of it. when i think about it you just wanted me back so you can tell her that you can get anyone on your side.


I'm just going to say this one last time then i will go hang out by myself away from this battle between you two. I Loved you i don't know about that anymore. but I can honestly tell you that I did love you . but i can't be around you when you spend all your time telling me about your time with Ian. how you lost your virginity to him and how you will not go to college just so you can be there for and with him. I take some of the blame for you getting together with Ian. It started when you wrote me that note asking me if i still had feelings for you and i told you the truth that i had feelings for other people at the time and all that.








Good By Chelbee shelton for the last time








is this the right thing to do??? did i say the right thing??? please help meWhats the best way to let a girl your in love let them know that your leaving them.?
I think its healthy for you to put for thought and feeling down on paper. It is very therapeutic and it helps you close a chapter in your life and move on. I also think that you are being mature in the letter stating what you feel in a manner that is not so insulting.


Its straight forward and to the point. She will of course be upset and she might call you to fuss and argue and tell you to go to hell or something along those lines.


Take it in stride and just be as calm as you were in the letter. Just tell her that that is the way you feel and if she doesn't agree then that is her problem.





I just wish you didn't feel like this is your fault! Even if you did hurt her once, there is no reason why she should continue to say things to hurt you.





I really hope that you can be strong enough to really let this toxic relationship go and become the better man I know you can be.





I wish you luck, very proud that you can see for yourself how bad this is for you and you are ready to make a change.Whats the best way to let a girl your in love let them know that your leaving them.?
Hi there,





I don't know all your history with this girl, but having read what I just did, it seems that you guys were once together and that you did something that hurt her (hence why you feel responsible, partly, for her getting together with the other fella, and also for why she's upset). So, it seems to me that either:





a) She still has feelings for you but wants to mess with you because all she can focus on is the anger and hurt that she is experiencing over the past -- ie. she doesn't know how to move forward and give you another chance. It does sound like she is 'rubbing things in your face', which is childish (and what people do when they are hurt/want to make you jealous);





OR b) She really doesn't feel the same way towards you any longer -- but then it wouldn't make sense her trying to make you jealous, just very immature (well, either way, actually), but maybe she is still attached to you and doesn't know any other way to be;





My advice: IF you really really really care for and love this girl, tell her to the best of your ability how much of a mistake you made and that you would be willing to take all the time in the world to prove to her that you are trustworthy and such, but that you need for her to TRY and give you another chance...slowly. You need to find out -- with simple, honest communication -- if she is willing to do that. If she isn't, or can't even communicate effectively with you her feelings -- then it's a lost cause. Let her do what she wants and back RIGHT OFF. Leave her be and do NOT try and be friends because obviously that is NOT working -- and it's HURTING you. But you have to find out if she still has those feelings for you and is WILLING to give you another chance -- and . If not, move on completely, as it's going to go around in the same ol' circle, going nowhere... And in that case, just tell her flat out that you are moving on, and wish her the best of luck, etc.





Hope that helps a bit! Good luck :)
matthew ive answered one of your questions before so i know what you're feeling. i think its a perfect message. like ive told you before if she wants you, she will make it happen. she shouldnt tease you and treat you like this when youve poured your heart and soul out to her. she just likes the chase and likes that feeling of having you on a leash.


im glad youre finally going to be moving on! you deserve someone wayyyyy much better who will love you insanely as much as you love her. who will give back the same amount of time and energy that you do in a relationship. best of luck!