Need help with an ex gf and the possibility of getting back together

My situation is such:


My ex gf after almost a year made contact with me. Now understand that we broke up because I hurt her by talking to another ex gf while with her.


Ok, so I have been praying to be with her again and in June she contacts me, and mid June we start to talk again building up from a Hi txt message to conversations by txt. She really wont do more then txt messages. We talked once on the phone for about 20-30 minutes about 2 weeks ago. Another bit of info is she has a bf, for almost a year now, and she said she doesnt want to hurt him, but she is confused. I am sure she is probably still seeing and talking to him, so of course he is getting more of a chance then I am with her. But when asked directly she said she wants to be with me, loves me, misses me, and thinks about me. She has also told me she wants this but it will take time and we will do this slowly. Also, she is not the type to play games or mince words. She wont say something she doesnt mean and wont do anything either unless thought out.


Ok, now over the last week or so, it seems like she is becoming distant. Txt'ing less, and when I tried calling on friday I got her voice mail and I havent heard from her since (not even a txt).


I dont know what to do. I want her to keep wanting me and I want to get her back. I love her dearly. But I am scared and I dont want to do the wrong thng either.


Some friends have told me to back off and let her come to me now, some have told me to go to her house and show her how I feel, and one has told me to give up (which really isnt an option for me). I have thought about the plusses and minuses of all those options





I am wondering what your advice is and what you think a plan of action should be to hopefully benefit me with my ex getting back together.


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since she contacted you after some time apart, she definitely wants to be in touch in some way...the issue is, however, that she is currently with someone...that she doesn't want to hurt...





she needs to be given the space to think about the situation that she's in and figure out what she wants to do with this guy before running to you...





i'm really glad that she contacted you and that you guys are hopefully going to work things out..





i would take it slow and make sure that you respond to her when she contacts you...but i wouldn't start the chasing game quite yet....it's not there, so don't rush it...





she's still in a confused state and misses you and wants to be back with you, just give it some time, and it will work itself out. make sure you sit down with her and communicate about how you feel..it's really hard for guys to do, but girls can't understand you guys unless you verbalize what it is you're feeling. we can't read you... best of luck!Need help with an ex gf and the possibility of getting back together
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Give her some space. Don't contact her for a week (unless she contacts you first) and when you do, just text her something casual and see how/if she responds and go from there.
I think you should tell her that you love her and that you think about her constantly and you know that you made a mistake a year ago and that you wouldnt ever do it again and encourage her not to make a mistake by talking to you if she love and care about her current boyfriend, (its going to hurt you to tell her that but you have to) because if she do love him, it would be a waste of your time to continue pursuing her. Also, tell her that you need to know how she feels and that perhaps you should get together to discuss everything, maybe in a central location where there wasnt a lot of pressure. Dont worry, God works for the good of those that love Him. Good luck man
Dude, you can get you ex back, but you need to take certain steps first. At first you must not make contact with her at all. Don't call her and don't meet her. You have to get yourself sorted together and improve yourself so the next time your ex sees you, you will be a new person. If you want more detailed information, see here - http://www.squidoo.com/winning-ex-back
I think she might need a little space.


She's obviously hurt from breaking up with you before


but happy with her boyfriend now


so she's confused about liking you


and guilty that she told you she likes you


so she's overcome and is thinking. give her time


she'll figure it out.


don't bug her too much,


but don't let her think that you have forgotten her either


just a simple text now and then saying hey, or how are you


but don't push it.


it'll work out.
You need to give her some more space and let her figure out what she's going to do with her present situation with her current boyfriend. Don't look at the lack of contact now as a bad thing since you have plenty before and she's aware of the situation.





Give her some more time.