What would you do if you and your ex got back together but later you found out he hooked up with HIS ex.?

My boyfriend of 2 years and I split up earlier in our relationship...about 10 months into it. We were broken up for 3 months and during our split he hooked up with his ex. Since then we've gotten back together and I JUST found out about this happening because he told on himself accidentally. Granted I wasn't an angel while we were broken up but he broke up with ME. When we got back together I came clean of the things I'd done but he did not. Now that we've been together for 8 months and been relatively happy this pops up and I don't know how to feel. I'm mad and feel betrayed but on the other hand we've been happy. Is ignorance bliss? It makes me leery of the long term goals we have. What if he does something like this again?





How would you react?What would you do if you and your ex got back together but later you found out he hooked up with HIS ex.?
if it was when we were broken up, I wouldn't care because we were broken up.What would you do if you and your ex got back together but later you found out he hooked up with HIS ex.?
I know it hurts to think about the person you love with his ex. But you have to realize that it was during the time when you guys had broken up. Technically he didn't cheat on you.So just let it go..


I think he didn't tell you before because he wanted to spare you from the hurt you'd feel. Some things are better unsaid.


Since you both are so happy now don't spoil it by these things. Let sleeping dogs lie.


I know it will be a little difficult for you but you must act rationally and not let your emotions get the better of you.
You guys were split, so it shouldn't matter !!!
What either of you two did while you were broken up doesn't matter. The thing is your weren't together. You have no say in what he did and he has no say in what you did. Now that you're back together what matters is what he does now that he's YOUR b/f. You have no right being mad for something he did when he wasn't your b/f.
I don't think it should matter because you guys weren't together
first, have you ever tried asking your boyfriend who take the first move? does his ex gf or him who made the first call?
Well, i have had that happen to me. If you love him and he loves you he should tell you these things. It was not ';wrong'; because you both were broken up. But you need to talk to him for yourself.
If you were broken up then you shouldn't do anything. What he did when you guys were apart is HIS business.
ok - easier said than done to just ';not care';. I have been in this situation and it's a hard pill to swallow because she at least had the decency to come clean. Do you have a right to be upset, not really, but I can see why. I was very upset too. He just didn't want to ruffle feathers but in turn hurt you because he lied. If things are good now then keep going. Yes, ignorance is bliss but I knwo as well as anyone I can't turn a blind eye to certain things. If he does something like this again then GOODBYE...it will hurt but you'll always survive a break up :)
leave him
I would forgive him. You can't blame a guy for wanting companionship when he broke up with you.
Don't be jealous of something that happened when you two were not together, especially if you did some things too.
sounds like he still might have feelings for his ex..i would be concerned
i think you both did things that you are not proud of so you both should just drop it and move on. this is only going to bring stress on yalls relationship you both came clean and love each other and been together for two years and that something to forgive and forget. you too both need to just move on and not lets htis get to you. yall both said the truth and are happy and back together so move on.





good luck
Theres no sex like ex sex........





While it may be a flippant comment there is truth behind it. Its a comfort zone thing.





As a serial monogomist myself the temptation is always there to go back to an ex. Firstly, u know they like u which makes it easier than approaching someone new, secondly u know what they like to do and vice versa.





I really wouldn't give it a second thought. The reason he didnt tell you is probably because he knew u wouldn't like it and didnt want to hurt your feelings. This said however if he is in regular contact with the girl then I'd be more concerned.





Generally speaking though the chances are that he was with her because it was easier then being with somebody new. Chillax and enjoy the happiness that you have now!!!
i wouldn't we was not together